My Counseling Approach in a Nutshell

1.      Problems usually have several things in common:

     ·        A sense of chaos

     ·        Alienation in relationships

     ·        A feeling of hopelessness

2.      Goals usually have several things in common:

     ·        A sense of order

     ·        Connection in relationships

     ·        A feeling of hope

3.      Solutions usually have several things in common:

     ·        We get back to our old or true self (the part of us that is most compassionate, centered, creative, generous, playful and wise).

     ·        We find our way back home to people (where we can be strong and weak, happy and sad, protecting and protected, holding and held).

     ·        We find an authentic spirituality to acknowledge the sacred in life (with or without formal religion).

This is the basic ‘map’ I use in my work and the problem you are wanting to solve will use only the parts of the map necessary to help you find your solutions. 

Problems and goals come and go, back and forth in life. What is most important is to cultivate the three relationships described as solutions. They are the bridges that connect us to what is most essential and they are the containers that hold us as we lose and find ourselves over and over throughout our lives.